To answer the question first about why to use sex toys, without a doubt, the reason should be for the FUN of it! The same reasons why we have sex are the same reasons why we should use toys. Whether it be for solo use (masturbation) or to enhance the sexual relationship between you and your partner, toys are a great addition to the bedroom and for those bedroom pleasures.
For many women, vibrating toys are the only way they will achieve orgasms so for them, vibrators are an essential part of their sex lives and a must for their bedroom toy box.
Research has shown that men buy as many vibrators as women, since the female orgasm is the driving force behind the sales of adult toys and men have recognized the positive effect it has on their intimate relationships. After all, sexual gratification is what both partners require, to achieve sexual satisfaction within a relationship.
Let’s look at some questions women have about sex toys.
Will the use of toys have a negative impact on my regular sex life?
Although a common and real fear, nowhere is there evidence that toys will ruin your regular sexual activities. In fact, toys are there to enhance sexual pleasure and improve passion in the bedroom. The more women and couples experiment with sexuality the more they are open to new ideas and their sexual enjoyment.
Sexual pleasure plays a major role in a healthy intimate relationship and toys are only there to enhance those intimate moments.
If sex toys help you achieve orgasm then they have a place in your intimate relationship.
Can I build up a tolerance or get numb from the use of sex toys?
A little numbness and sensitivity around your clitoris or vaginal lips is not uncommon but this will be an indication to slowdown with the toy for a while. You may even build up a tolerance to the toys you own so it is good practice to not use the toys too often or, as an alternative, you can try new and different toys. As long as you don’t fall into a habit but rather mix things up, then you’ll be fine.
Sex toys may threaten my partner.
In a negative sex culture there are negative reactions to toys but more commonly, most men love toys. They love to watch their partners use them and they love to participate. With the latest in toy technology, many toys are designed too be used by both partners, and to enhance mutual stimulation and satisfaction. The key here is communication. Discuss with your partner what you like and introduce toys that both of you agree on and feel comfortable with.
If toys are part of your sexuality then be upfront with your partner and let them know you enjoy using them. For the most part, they will not feel threatened but would rather be aroused because it tells them you are sexually mature and comfortable with your own sexuality.
Why use sex toys you ask again? The answer is all of the above and toys should be enjoyed and welcomed into a loving intimate relationship. The pleasures far out ways any negative opinions.